It is often a struggle for most woman to accept their changing body during pregnancy. Personally, I did not care what I looked like or how much weight I would gain to grow my miracle. It took many years and many tears to conceive, I planned on continuing my pre-pregnancy mentality of not worrying about weight or shaming my beautiful growing belly. I do want to mention that I put in ALOT of hard work changing the way I thought of my body, food and weight prior to pregnancy. Including but not limited to making peace with my body no matter what weight or shape it took, no food rules, joyful exercise, self love and living my life to the fullest without thoughts of food or exercise present in the back of my mind. Yoga, intuitive eating, meditation, having fun, a supportive spouse and working with a soul coach are the tools that helped me achieve the success above. To my HA girls, I encourage recovery prior to pregnancy since these thoughts may creep in easier than before pregnancy.
First off society puts an unhealthy image on pregnancy as they do with any body image for females. Belly only pregnancy, fit pregnancy, I can only gain X amount of weight, leaving the hospital in your pre-pregnancy jeans, OB-GYNs telling you to lay off the carbs (this is another topic) and APPs to track your pregnancy weight gain. Do any of these ring a bell? How frustrating, we can't even enjoy one of the most special times in our life without regret from societies image on a "healthy" pregnancy. Just like in everyday life without being pregnant, there is no weight/size that defines "healthy" or "normal".
So what is a "healthy" pregnancy? Disclaimer- there is no one pregnancy that fits all and no advice (even the advice below) that fits all. Pregnancy is full of ups and downs, happy/sad (thanks hormones) and a life changing experience you will never ever forget.
A "healthy" pregnancy is being fully present with the miracle you are growing whether or not you had struggled to get there. What is being present? Side note: During pregnancy hormones play a HUGE role in how you are feeling about pretty much everything. So if you are feeling depressed/very sad it is highly recommended to speak with your doctor about this.
A "healthy" pregnancy is intuitive eating and giving your body what its craving, even if that means having a cookie for breakfast :)
A "healthy" pregnancy is trusting your body to let it gain the weight it needs to support the miracle in your belly while putting aside societies screwed up image on a "fit", belly only pregnancy. Comparing weight gain to friends or family members is not realistic, they are not you.
A "healthy" pregnancy is taking care of yourself mentally and physically. I do not have a definition of what taking care of yourself is but if you have read above you could see what worked for me. I can tell you it is extremely unhealthy to compare yourself to others, especially on social media. There are many other medical things that attribute to a "healthy" or not so healthy pregnancy which I do not have the expertise to talk on.
Sticks and stones may break your bones but names or comments should never hurt you. Lastly, I do think its important to not let others comments make you feel bad. Example, "How far along are you? Wow I thought you were ready to POP!" Or "Are you pregnant with twins?", "Your getting big", etc.. YOU are beautiful and growing a miracle! Do not let body image, weight, others comments ruin the most special time in your life.
I encourage most woman healing from Hypothalamic Amenorrhea (HA) to try their hardest in healing their relationship with their body and food prior to pregnancy. Pregnancy can often bring these not so fun old feelings up of controlling food intake, weight worries and increasing exercise. During my pregnancy these thoughts were not present due to the work I put in healing my thoughts around my body and food prior. Not to mention how long it took to get pregnant. Again, being grateful and mindful can help put you in a place to encourage positive thoughts and behaviors. I enjoyed moving joyfully (never planned or intentional exercise), yoga was my BFF and I swear helped me fit an almost 9 pound baby out of my 5'0" frame. I ate whatever I wanted and in fact struggled to eat enough due to morning/afternoon and night sickness. Thankfully I was able to add more calories in without increasing volume of food eaten and took advantage of the time when I had an appetite and ate whatever I could !
I want you to look back on your pregnancy and be able to fully enjoy growing your little miracle without negative thoughts of weight and body image aside.
So much love to all of you and never forget pregnant or not to be kind to that beautiful body that does so much for you.
Who Needs a Period? They are a pain in the a** anyway !